Succeeding isn’t always about how physically strong or well-prepared you are. The same goes for managing your way through a rough spot. A lot of it has to do with how well you can motivate yourself mentally. Let me start with a personal example.
If you read my blog, you know that almost a year ago I lost my grandfather to cancer. He was 92-years-old and had he lived a few more months, he and my grandmother would have been married for 70 years. Seventy years is a long time to be with one person, so you can imagine that our family was worried about how my grandmother would cope with the loss of her lifelong companion. We’d heard the stories of people who lose someone after such a long time and basically give up on life. I’m pleased to say that today my grandmother is successfully taking care of herself in the house she lived in with my grandfather. She has started doing things like participating in a weekly bingo group and attending community functions provided through the hospital’s grief group for widows. During the holidays she traveled from Florida to spend a few weeks with my family. I won’t tell you that it’s been easy–she has her bad days. That’s exactly what she calls them, “my bad days” and she allows herself to have a bad day here and there, but then she gets herself back on track and feels better.
So many times we make a decision to lose weight or eat healthier and then something happens that causes us to temporarily falter. The problem is that many of us see this as a failure–it’s not. The path to success is not a straight one. There are going to be days when you feel bad, days when you don’t stick to your diet or don’t feel like exercising. Instead of beating yourself up about it, chalk it up to a bad day and get up the next day ready to pick up where you left off. Having a bad day doesn’t make you weak, it makes you human and the more you can embrace this, the better the chance of you succeeding in your goal.
I can tell you from personal experience that the more I would hold myself to unrealistic expectations in the past, the less successful I was at reaching a weight loss goal. For example, if I was trying to drop 10 or 15 pounds and was dieting and exercising to achieve this goal, there would be days I was tired and might not feel like exercising. Likewise, there would be days I would eat something that wouldn’t be on my diet plan. In these situations I’d feel very guilty and either try to make up for it by doubling up on my exercise the following day (which would make me extra tired, resulting in a vicious cycle) or reducing my caloric intake (which would make me edgy and tired). Most times I’d end up never making my goal weight. Today, I eat a balanced diet and get regular exercise. I don’t hold myself to any stringent routine and allow for days when I simply don’t feel like doing anything. I know the next day I’m up and out there again because I don’t beat myself up about it. I have a positive attitude about my eating and my physical activity and for the first time in my life it really shows!